Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Message To In Laws

I was reading newspaper this morning while I came accross this interesting article. It says Disappeared. It was about this issue that couldn't be solved for thousands of years. There's even a saying in chinese that says, the problems withing in laws are so complicated that even scholars also couldn't solve it. So let's face it.

Well it was a story of this old couple which had a son and a daugther in law. At first this old man Lee was very hardworking when he is still young. He worked hard for his family. However when his son grew up, he found a girl and got married. From then onwards he neglected his parents. One day, this old man Lee's grandson came and asked him a question. "grandpa, when are u going," asked the 10 year old boy. Old man Lee was puzzled and asked him,"go where?" This little kid was so naive that he replied what the mother had told him. He said," Mummy say I don't have to share room with my sister anymore after grandpa had gone." At once old man Lee caught the meaning. (it's so obvious la!) So that night, old man Lee sat quietly around the dining table, refuse to evan move the chop sticks. The son was puzzled. So he asked his father why he wasn't eating? Old man Lee replied that there's someone wishing that he is dead so that her son can had his own room, so he was just making the whole procedure faster by fasting. Immediately the son's wife caught his meaning and shouted back at him. Old man Lee got hurt so deeply that he ran out from the house and disappeared. The son went and search for him but he couldn't find him. They thought he might went for a cup of coffee with his friends just to relax and get over with this things. However he wasn't back in 24hours. So they reported to the police. After 13days, the police came back with a news, they found a body near a palm estate. They asked the son to indentify whether that's his father. But old man Lee's wife was so relax that she said that is not your father. Don't worry. He's not dead. However after a week, she went to her son. She told her son that his father came back. His son was so happy that he ran to his father's room to find out that he was lying there. He put his fingers on his father's nose and found out that he was dead. His mother then told him, actually old man Lee came back right after they went searching for him. He was so hurt that he refused to see them again. So he was all the while hiding in his room!!

For the Daugther-in-law
I really must let you know the feeling of a mother. Well actually I don't quite know since I am a boy. However after much of this in law quarelling thing, more or less I can understand them. You see, a mother's worst fear will be losing her child. I got lots of testimonial from my mum and her collegue. When I was still a little kid, I'm like a monkey. Now still behave like one. Right, whenever she brought me to supermarket, I will run around and disappeared. Until now, I disappeared three times already. I still remember this particular case about me going to KFC. It was this not so fine afternoon that I felt like eating KFC, so my mum brought me to this shopping complex near my house and let me go and buy my food. So I took the money and went without listening to what she said. Then when I come out, she was gone! So I was kinda panic, but so happen that my dad drove by from work so I stopped him and I went home. I told him mum was gone when I come out. He just laughed. When we got home, I saw my mum's car. My dad said to me that my mum is back at home. Then I was so happy and I ran into the house. However, the house was empty. My mum wasn't there. There I thought where did my mum go? But at the age of 8, I didn't think that much and I started eating my food la. Then it rained. My dad was quite worried looking. So he took me out to search for my mum. Then we came back again without any result. Suddenly we saw someone wet came running towards us. It was my mum! She went on foot looking for me when she didn't see me coming out from the shopping complex. She was still searching for me when it rained. So you see this is a mother's love! You can never beat that.
That is why sometimes your mother-in-law fussed around you. She had no bad intention actually. She had nothing against you. She just expect you to provide the same thing she gave to her son. Sometimes we also can blame it on the generation gap. They might have their olden days thinking which is already outdated now. But why don't you just listen to her and maybe give her you opinion in a nice way? You don't have to shout at her or show her faces? She just want her son to enjoy! She loved her son. And you girls just couldn't take a simple advice? Yeah I admit there are times where your mother-in-law was quite, erm, annoying. They just can't stop blabbering around you. Hey!! They are old people right? They tend to have this syndrome which my sister just told me and I forgot what was it already. Old people have this kind of fear. They are affraid of everything. Some will always think that there are people out there trying to harm them. Some have this feeling that people want to steal their things. It's just a normal process of a human being. YOU ARE GOING TO BE LIKE THAT ONE DAY!!! So just let them blabber la. You do your part, be nice to them. Don't lose your patience. They are just like a little kid. You don't lose your patience when they don't know how to do something. In stead you thought they were cute for behaving like that! So why don't you try treating you in laws like babies and you definitely will have a better life.

For the MOTHER-in-law
Alright, I know you want to give the best in the world to your child. Please be reminded that there are always people out there having the same thinking as you. Namely their spouse. Especially you daugther-in-law! She also want the give your son the best she can. She had her way you had your way. Just try asking your son, and make sure he's honest to you, did he liked it when you and his wife were quarelling on a simple thing such as which type of soya sauce is better? Come on I can answer on behalf of him. Unless he's idiot. HE WILL DEFINITELY SAY NO!!! That is why your son will choose to move out after some time he got married. He can't stand it when both of you are quarreling. So better to suffer a bit and get his own house and he is done with the noise. So in this way, you lost your son! Come back to the topic. You should be more open. Don't have the thinking that this girl is here to take my son away. I must make sure she don't have a good life here. I WANT HER OUT! Come on you IDIOT MORON! Do you think your son will be happy when you chase his wife out of the house? HE IS GOING TO CURSE YOU IN EVERYWAY HE KNOWS! That applies to the wife too! IF YOU SUCCESSFULLY CHASE YOUR MOTHER IN LAW OUT OF THE HOUSE, YOUR LOVELY HUSBAND WILL BE A MONSTER SOON!!
People say that great mind thinks alike and people of the same kind mix together. So, both of you have great minds, you want this particular man to have the best he could and both of you are doing the same thing! So why don't you work together and provide him something he couldn't even dream of when only one of you is acting alone? Provide him a better and peaceful family. What more can a guy ask for? He's got a wife, beautiful kids and his beloved mother. He has what he has. Unvalueable treasure - provided it's peaceful. Try to understand that his wife is also learning and trying to suit in to a new family. She will be having a hard time trying to be a "daugther of yours". Try to treat her like your best friend. I don't ask you to treat her like your own daugther, just your friend. You wouldn't try every single way to eliminate your friends right?

So, these are a few things both of you should learn up! (D-daugther-in-law, M-mother-in-law)
1. D should try to understand what your M is doing.
2. D should bare in mind that if you start quarelling, your husband might go to pub and end up with other girl.
3. D should learn your husband house rules, their custom and traditions.
4. M, try to think in a way that D is not here to snatch your son away, she's here to love your son.
5. M, do not ever show you ugly temper! Don't have funny behavior! eg. You don't need 2 bottles of soya sauce in the kitchen.
6. M, Be nice to D. Live together and you'll live happily ever after. (after all you don't have much time left-that's universal truth).

So people out there, especially boys. Don't be affraid to approach any of them to discuss with them your problem. I mean those problem caused by them. Have them talk nicely to each other. Don't pamper any of them. Be fair. I'm sure you know who's right and who's wrong. Tell them. Don't be affraid of them. BE A MAN!!! DO THE RIGHT THING!!! Of course when I mean do the right thing, I don't me scolding them. If I can see a few families where M & D can live happily together, I don't see a single excuse for you to say that it is impossible for yours to be like that.
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*stay tuned. Men's to come soon.

Saturday, September 15, 2007

War Of Centuries

Reminder: This post is strictly for NON-MUSLIMS only.
Perhatian: Pos ini adalah untuk bacaan penganut BUKAN-ISLAM sahaja.
注意: 以下的帖子之供非回教徒阅读 (shit man my mandrin got worse)

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Alright this is bloody sick having listening to people from all religion PROMOTING their religion. Basically I don't include Islam due to certain binding of laws in my country that I'm not suppose to comment on Islam. So what I am going to say or post is DEFINITELY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ISLAM OR MUSLIM COMMUNITY. So don't come saying you want to sue me or anything. THIS HAS GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH ISLAM!!! Alright I know some of you might not agree with me but come on, accept the fact!

Right, First of all, I am a BUDDHIST. However being a buddhist doesn't stop me from reading other books from other religion. I read the bible (briefly) I read many crishtian stories (some are quite enjoyable) I read about Hinduism and many many. So what actually I want to comment about is not the religion. It is the followers or maybe i should say those fenatics. They really practise their religion to the extend of discriminating others' religion and sometime they even have the thinking of getting more people to believe in their GOD will secure them a place in heaven. This is not part of their teaching as far as I know. All religion tought us to do good. In Buddhism we have Panca Sila (5 precepts) in Christianity they have 10 admenmants (i think i spelled it right) and so on. So why do we critisies others? I mean who in the right mind will say that Killing is rigth we should kill more!! Nazi is an exception - he's insane anyway. Yes there are some times we don't agree with certain practise of other religion. Take for example christian don't take the food we used to worship our ancestor. They say it's GHOSTS' food. While other don't agree that we should only thank God for the food on our table. Don't you think so?

For those who doesn't understand let me explain it. Food used to worship our ancestors. Basically what is wrong with that food? Don't you eat left overs of your father before? I had it so many times that I think I lost count of the times. The only different is that one is after he died and one is before he died. Question being brought up!
Question 1, I thought christians said that those who believed in GOD will go to heaven? So they are not ghost right?
Question 2, does the GOD here means the only and almighty GOD?
Question 3, are you saying that those who doesn't believe in GOD will go to hell?
Let me give you my view. Yupz they are not ghost, and certainly I don't think he is the only GOD. As for the last one. If it's really like that, then hell will be full la may dear friends!!! So basically there are angels who are not believer of GOD. So how can you be so sure that your ancestor is not one of them? If they are ghost, shouldn't they be in hell and how are they suppose to come up and eat those thing? So basically those food are save to be eaten!

As for the prayer before meal. Yupz it's a good practise. I do agree that we had to be thankful to those who provide us the food. Buddhists do have contemplation on the food they eat but many doesn't practise it. Christian thank their God for they food Buddhist took the food as a medicine to keep their life going on. Greatfulness is what I admired from the Christians. They thank their God for the food and they eat it so happily. Erm... just a suggestion, why don't you add in a little bit more on your prayers next time. Thank your father for working for the food and thank the cook who prepared the food. Just before you say amen.

Another thing I am not quite agree with them is that why they are not allowed to read other religions' teaching? As I had said. All religion tought us to be good. So our basic is the same just that what we are doing is not the same. This is just like Chemical engineering and Civil engineering. Both share the same basic but ended up in different field. So what's wrong with reading it? I mean if we read to understand and we read for fun? I mean come on la! It's so ridiculus that christian are not allowed to read Harry Potter? They are not allowed to watch Da Vinci Code? Joke of they century man!!! Accept it as it is. When people criticise you don't get angry in the first place, turn around and look at yourself. Is it true that I'm like what they said? If so thank them for telling you and CHANGE! If they are spreading rumours, YOU THINK YOU CAN STOP THEM FROM SPREADING AR? So take the thing as an entertainment. Life is short, enjoy before you die. While enjoying please don't hurt someone else ok? I know some people can't take practical joke and they will get you into trouble.

Last but not least. My teacher aka The Buddha tought me that I shall learn up what is good and forget what is bad. So I shall apply it in this case. We shall learn what is good and forget what is bad. Learn from the christians for their greatfulness. Learn from other for their good qualities no harm what? If others' religion is misleading them. Tell them once. If they still don't get it that is their believe. What can we do? We had not seen the truth. Those had seen the truth is not here to tell you what was it like. No one had seen God. I had not seen Buddha. Its just our believe. We share the same basic. To practise good and to achieve eternal happiness. Ver. Suvvano is not very pleased with this phrase. He said it's EVER LASTING PEACE.

Stop quarelling and pulling like a kid playing tug o war. It's stupid. Go spend some time learning up some good qualities and make your life a better and more enjoyable one. TATA.

Friday, September 14, 2007

Passport to Hell

Yay yay! I'm so happy. I am soon going to be a dual-citizen!!! Malaysian-"Hell-ion". In 2 days time I'm going to go for the interview for my new passport. If I manage to pass the interview I will not get may passport. However it I fail it I will be a dual-citizen!! Kinda happy with that.

Oh come on, fuck the stupid passport idea. I'm going to have my trial exam in 2 days time. Yet I'm still hanging on with this bloody machine rigth in front of my eyes. *my books are right behind of me* I'm getting panic now! 37 chapters of STPM Physics to study + 34 chapters of STPM Chemistry + 17 Chapters of Pure and Statistic Math + Malaysian Studies. WEE!!! I onl completed half of the math. The rest still quite blank with them. Now I'm actually quite, PANIC!!! Seriuosly if I don't do well this time, I am going to get my dual citizenship in no time. Or maybe maybe, Malaysia will throw me out and I'll be a Hell-ion!!! Yeepee!! Shit I'm damn emo now.

"STPM trial is a very important exam you know? What it it floods or the marker loose your paper? They are going to use the trial exam result as your real result you know?" That's what I always get from my mom. Listen till I can repeat the whole the from the back to her already. However, the mood of studying is just not with me. Have to admit many people say I'm a fast learner, just that I don't wanna learn. To some extend it's true but I don't think it applies in this case. No matter how I look at those books it just won't go into my mind. *sigh*

What ever la. Now I'm heading back into the books and try my luck again. *chaoz*

Thursday, September 6, 2007

Child's Hand Got Removed... Thanks To Irresponsible Doctors

This is a case recently happened in the medical field. A baby's hand had to be removed due to the "careless-ness" of the doctor. Summary of the case : A baby was born prematurely. Admited into the hospital. While she was being treated something happened and the trainee medical student on call made a call to the child's specialist. The child's specialist was actually on call so s/he had to rush to the hospital. In stead, s/he used the latest technology to treat the baby. Teleoperation. Cool yeah?? NOT AT ALL!!! He tought the medical student how to handle the baby via handphone!! The medical student was just a 3rd or 4th year student. HOW COULD SHE BE ABLE TO HANDLE A FRAGILE BABY??? So things happened and the baby's hand went dark and pronounce dead and had to be chopped off.

Just imagine what will it be like if this little girl happens to be you or your child. She was born healthy with all her limbs. But due to a doctor's laziness, YOU LOSE AN ARM!!! Yoo became OKU (orang kurang upaya - disabled people) How would you feel? If that doctor (should i be calling him doctor anymore?? I think I'll change to Bastard...) that bastard hadn't been so lazy, you would have been a normal person and you can do a lot of things. Do you know how sad the OKU felt when they see people playing games? They had to sit there and see people playing. Let's do a simple experiment. Try wrapping up one of your hands and get along with your life. See how much thing you can do with just one arm. YOU CAN'T EVEN SCRATCH OUR OTHER HAND!!!

Actually this is a bloody sick world! I still remember when I was a little kid, teacher used to ask what we would like to be when we grow up? Majority would say DOCTOR, ENGINEER, LAWYER and few would just say I want to be a teacher. Why? Simple, Those profession can earn you lots of money. Maybe that time we were young so we are so naive to think that those job are so easy and it earns alot. However as we grew up, we still filling in forms and there's a column there - AMBITION. Many will still fill in DOCTOR, ENGINEER and LAWYER but not as many as when we were little kids. They just don't think of their own qualification. I mean i can understand those top students that they wanted to be one of those professionals la. But those bloody fools, bloody idiot bloody nymcompoods also want to be doctors? THEY CAN'T EVEN REMEMBER THAT HUMAN BODY IS MADE UP OF CELLS!!! How could they be doctors? They are just like bloody noobshit trying to cook a pot of soup when they don't even know what a pot is.

Next, if you are qualified to be a doctor, please be a responsible one. MEDICAL LINE IS NOT FOR THOSE WHO WANTS TO EARN MONEY WITHOUT CARING HOW THEY EARN IT OK?? If you want it that way, I'd suggest you get a gun and walk into a bank and start shooting everywhere and go get your money. Doctor is a profession where you save lifes not taking lifes away. I am a buddhist and this is what the Buddha tought us. "HE WHO SERVES THE SICKS SERVES ME" So we should be doing this out of compassion not out of greed. We don't simply treat out patients. They need help from us. THEY PAY US TO TREAT THEM! We shouldn't be looking down on them and felt lazy treating them. If you do have this kind of feeling, I would represent the patients and the Doctors' accociation to say a big thank you to you if you would like to resign. I would even publish it on the front page of newspaper if you would decide not to practise again. Leave your pose, we don't need anyone having this kind of thinking in our medical field. SHAME TO YOU, SHAME TO YOUR PROFESSORS AND DOCTORS.

The medical school should play a part in preventing this kinda things from happening also. Don't just make sure your students have good grades. Don't simply pass those students even they had paid millions to study this course. Don't pass them even they threatened to commit suicide if they really don't deserve it. I rather have them died rather than having their patients dying. One dead is better than two or many. (got "S" means a lot d la). Besides that please make sure they have this doctors attic la. If they can do anything to earn money, who knows they will inject some nonsense into your body and make you worse and you pay more to treat your "new sickness" I've got source telling me that some doctors just simply call for operations. They will just simply say you need an operation when you complain that your stomach aches. When they cut open and found nothing, they just cut your appendix off and that's all. Then they will present you a bill with a nicely written 4digits sum. F**KING SHIT.

So basically this is what we urge.
1. Please take disciplinary action against lazy doctors.
2. Don't pass any Tom, Dick and Harry if they don't qualify to be a doctor.
3. Serious action should be taken against doctors who operates for no reason.
4. Don't let trainee medical students handle the babies. The babies can't talk so you won't know if you had done something wrong. At least the adults can tell you how they feel.
5. Treat you patients whole heartedly. Don't treat them for money.

*damn pissed off with some doctors these days.